Forgive Yourself!

Today would be my 8 year wedding anniversary with The Narcissist. This time of year with the anniversary and the holidays and all of it certainly reminds me of him and makes me reflect back on the experience of it all a bit. I’ve realized that one of the most substantial and empowering parts of […]

#whyIstayed

I came across someone on Twitter who is doing some research on narcissistic abuse¬†and struggling with understanding why victims of narcissistic abuse stay in the abusive relationships. I reached out and recommended that they read the #whyIstayed hashtag where victims in all types of abusive relationships summarize the reasons why they stayed… and I also […]

The Freedom to Vote

I got in my early vote this morning. ūüôā ` Today was the first election since I met The Narcissist that I was able to vote for the candidates and questions the ways that I believed in. I didn’t have to argue for my opinions to the point of exhaustion. I wasn’t made to feel […]

Thoughts on Closure

I’ve had a few “major” breakups in my life and have experienced the feeling of closure of a relationship in a few different ways… There was my first ‘real’ boyfriend a 3 year high school relationship. He broke up with me for a girl that worked at the super market with him… who he was […]

I’m Special Too Dammit!

Today’s rant is brought to you by my breaking the no contact rule. Every time I do it there is a logical reason for it, and then I suffer as a result. In the several times I have broken my own no contact rule I have been left feeling used, foolish, stupid, worthless… and ANGRY. […]

A Perfect Fit… Right From the Start!

This photo could not be more perfect. The Narcissist returned some of my items that he still had the other night and I have been sorting through all the stuff. He gave me this snow globe for some birthday, anniversary, valentine’s day or other event and I pulled it out of the storage bin busted. […]

Getting Used to Starting Over

This morning, a really sweet older gentleman who I just met asked me… “are you in love?” Before my brain could even catch up with my mouth, I was nodding my head and replying “yes…” seemingly ready to spout off all of the things I was programmed to say about my amazing husband, our perfect […]