Those of you who have been reading have heard me talk alot about “No Contact” and have read first-hand the struggles and suffering I have dealt with every time I break my own “No Contact” rules. I think that going no contact with a narcissist is a critical step in the healing process and I understand first hand how difficult it can be.
I really enjoyed After Narcissistic Abuse’s post “Why is No Contact so Difficult” and wanted to make sure that everyone had a chance to see it!
One of the hardest things about narcissistic abuse and going no contact, is getting to that point in time where we cross the line from WANTING the narcissist to love us & being devastated by the feelings that they don’t, along with everything that means to us and ACCEPTING that they are entirely and forever incapable of it.
Whether or not we loved ourselves before we met a narcissist, is irrelevant. The fact is, we were sold on the idea that a narcissist did love us in a grandiose narc fashion, then they went about the business of abusing us. In that abuse, they also relentlessly verbally berated us, insidiously blamed us over and over again, sending us the message that somehow the abuse was our fault and that we were not worthy of anything more.
By the time we wise up and decide to put them behind us, the…
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